Do you ever feel misunderstood? Or not understood at all? I do. Often. That's why I'm writing this post. This post will most likely only reinforce the opinions of those who already don't "get" me, but I'm willing to roll with that if this post makes even one other person feel less like an alien. And I don't like to write lengthy posts, so I'm gonna keep this short and to the point.
Tom will be 2 in May. Tom is still nursing. It's just what we do. I nurse my babies a long time. And, yes, I am fully aware that Tom eats other foods and doesn't necessarily "need" to nurse. I also recognize that it is mostly a comfort for him, and I'm fine with that. It's something he and I share, and it is misunderstood by many, which, by the way, doesn't make it wrong.
Tom still nurses during the night, too, so I don't spend nights away from him. I sleep with him every night and have been doing so for almost 2 years. And, yes, this means I'm sort of a fuddy dud. I don't go on trips and leave him behind. Do I like to have time away from my brood? YES YES YES YES YES!!! Is it exhausting to be "needed" at night by a toddler? Sure! But I am a mother. It's part of my job. Doesn't have to be, I guess, but it is how I choose to do my job. I believe it is how mothers did their job for centuries. Does that mean it's how everyone should mother? Absolutely not. I don't think that at all. There is more than one way to get the job done, and we all should say that over and over to ourselves and to each other.
I also believe there are more out there like me than let on. Why? Because you sorta get labeled a weirdo around these parts if you nurse your kids longer than a year. I'd be willing to bet there are many mothers who would nurse longer if they felt supported and weren't made to feel like aliens for doing so. As a mother, you are already filled with much self-doubt, so you're sensitive to anything or anyone that makes you think you might be doing something wrong. So I'm writing this for you. This is for anyone who wants to keep nursing or for anyone who is nursing a toddler and feeling like a weirdo for it. I get you. There are others out there like you.
And to anyone who is nursing a toddler and has tackled night-weening, advice is appreciated. This is on the horizon for us.
Peace and love to all mothers and fathers who are putting in their time as parents and doing the best they can. And just remember, you aren't normal unless you're a little weird.